In this episode, I chat with Lee, who is a self-proclaimed SPS (single parent survivalist). I actually love this term! In her email to me, she said that she has been a mom and dad to her daughter for a really long time. This episode really dives in to what it’s like being a single mom for pretty much your child’s whole life. Lee shares the challenges and sacrifices it takes to be a single parent. Now that her daughter is grown, Lee moved in with her and has a more minimal living approach. They also run a photography business together.*
Growing up in a very small town, Lee always looked up to the women in her family – namely, her mother and grandmother. Her grandmother was actually Lee’s inspiration for starting her own photography business. She was so inspired by an 112 year old baby portrait her grandmother owned.
Next, we jumped into what she calls SPS aka Single Parent Survivalist. Lee talked about the times when she wanted to just stand in the shower and cry when she would get overwhelmed. Now that Lee’s daughter is an adult, people tell them that they’re envious of their relationship. (See, I’m tellin’ ya, there is a special bond that you can only get with your child if you’re a single parent.) If you’re from a small town, you know how they are. Lee mentioned that people would tell her she couldn’t raise her daughter alone and she would say, “yeah, I can. Watch me.”
Lee talked about how she would work three jobs and would be gone basically the entire day trying to make a living. After falling asleep at the wheel and driving off the road, Lee decided it was time to cut back on her workload. Prom was coming up and Lee wanted to take her daughter dress shopping.. and not from a clearance rack. Because of her hard work, she was able to take her daughter to a nice dress shop and say “whatever one you want.”
Now that her daughter is raised, Lee wanted to try minimal living. Lee sold her house and is now renting a room from her daughter. “The more I got rid of, the better I felt and the more organized I felt.” They also run a photography business together. One that Lee hopes to pass down to her daughter.
Listen to the episode for all the details.
*Please note: this is the guest’s story. Their story is how they perceive it. It is not my judgement or responsibility to determine whether or not this story and the things said are true. Please be open minded when listening to/reading these stories.
-When someone tries to steal your happiness, I like what Lee does. She 1) considers the source and 2) prays for them.
-Don’t worry about other’s opinions (easier said than done, I know).
-Anytime you have to have a serious talk with your child(ren), get in the car and drive. They can’t escape you in the car.
-It’s okay to cry, kick, scream and/or cry in the shower. Find a good support team.
-What are you doing with your dash?
-It is okay to change directions in life and it is okay to follow your own compass.
LINKS TO THINGS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
-Lee’s business: Heartland Photography
-My business: Jourdan’s Jewels (use code “hardknocks” at checkout to save 15%)
–Grace and Gold
–The Dash poem
–Jelly shoes 🙂
-Lee’s favorite book: Girl, Wash Your Face by Rachel Hollis (do you see the trend here?!)
–Affirmations on Pinterest
-Ending song: Hello Goodbye by Tyler Farr (listen on the Hard Knocks playlist on Spotify)
“I am calm and relaxed. I am at peace with myself and my mind. I am happy with the life I am living. Everything is okay. I am okay. I am healthy. I am loved. People like to be around me. I am attracting good and genuine people into my life. My life is great.”
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